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Tunaishi Nyanza.",[16,17,18,19,20,21],"money","in-laws","living-apart","separation","communication","illness","3-5","1","together",true,"2026-11-06T11:10:45.725Z",{"file":28,"alt":29,"kind":32,"photographer":33,"sourceUrl":34,"licence":35},"story-park-elders",{"en":30,"sw":31},"An older couple holding hands in the park","Wanandoa wazee wameshikana mikono bustanini","illustrative","Terrillo Walls","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.pexels.com\u002Fphoto\u002F2230028\u002F","Pexels License",{"slug":37,"title":38,"excerpt":41,"topicTags":44,"yearsMarriedBand":46,"separationCountBand":47,"outcome":24,"twoPerspective":4,"publishedAt":48,"image":49},"job-loss-or-business-failure-nearly-ended-our-marriage-in-year-14-here-1e3c1a",{"en":39,"sw":40},"Job loss or business failure nearly ended our marriage in year 14. Here's how we built it back","Kupoteza kazi au biashara kuanguka karibu kumaliza ndoa yetu katika mwaka wa 14. Hivi ndivyo tulivyoijenga upya",{"en":42,"sw":43},"We have been married for 11 to 20 years. Ours is a church marriage. We have two children together. We live in Coast.","Tumeoana kwa miaka 11 hadi 20. Ndoa yetu ni ya aina ya ya kanisani. Tuna watoto wawili pamoja. Tunaishi Pwani.",[20,45],"job-loss","11-20","none","2026-10-23T05:41:44.343Z",{"file":50,"alt":51,"kind":32,"photographer":54,"sourceUrl":55,"licence":35},"couple-dog",{"en":52,"sw":53},"A couple laughing on the sofa with their dog","Wanandoa wakicheka kochini pamoja na mbwa wao","Andres Ayrton","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.pexels.com\u002Fphoto\u002F6578776\u002F",{"slug":57,"title":58,"excerpt":61,"topicTags":64,"yearsMarriedBand":66,"separationCountBand":47,"outcome":24,"twoPerspective":4,"publishedAt":67,"image":68},"communication-or-constant-fighting-nearly-ended-our-marriage-in-year-8-92e13c",{"en":59,"sw":60},"Communication or constant fighting nearly ended our marriage in year 8. Here's how we built it back","Mawasiliano au ugomvi wa kila mara karibu kumaliza ndoa yetu katika mwaka wa 8. Hivi ndivyo tulivyoijenga upya",{"en":62,"sw":63},"We have been married for 6 to 10 years. Ours is a customary marriage. We have one child together. We live in Nairobi.","Tumeoana kwa miaka 6 hadi 10. Ndoa yetu ni ya aina ya ya kimila. Tuna mtoto mmoja pamoja. Tunaishi Nairobi.",[16,20,65],"children","6-10","2026-10-13T02:00:21.036Z",{"file":69,"alt":70,"kind":32,"photographer":73,"sourceUrl":74,"licence":35},"story-breakfast-row",{"en":71,"sw":72},"A husband and wife arguing at the breakfast table","Mume na mke wakibishana mezani wakati wa kifungua kinywa","Alex Green","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.pexels.com\u002Fphoto\u002F5699696\u002F",{"slug":76,"title":77,"excerpt":80,"topicTags":83,"yearsMarriedBand":22,"separationCountBand":84,"outcome":24,"twoPerspective":4,"publishedAt":85,"image":86},"we-separated-2-times-in-our-first-3-years-and-we-re-still-together-638ed1",{"en":78,"sw":79},"We separated 2 times in our first 3 years - and we're still together","Tulitengana mara 2 katika miaka yetu 3 ya kwanza - na bado tuko pamoja",{"en":81,"sw":82},"We have been married for 3 to 5 years. Ours is a customary marriage. We have two children together. We live in Rift Valley.","Tumeoana kwa miaka 3 hadi 5. Ndoa yetu ni ya aina ya ya kimila. Tuna watoto wawili pamoja. Tunaishi Bonde la Ufa.",[16,20,17,19],"2-3","2026-10-08T09:59:14.233Z",{"file":87,"alt":88,"kind":32,"photographer":91,"sourceUrl":92,"licence":35},"story-accra-cafe",{"en":89,"sw":90},"A couple talking over drinks at an outdoor cafe","Wanandoa wakizungumza wakinywa vinywaji mgahawani nje","David Crypto","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.pexels.com\u002Fphoto\u002F32103488\u002F",{"slug":94,"title":95,"excerpt":98,"topicTags":101,"yearsMarriedBand":46,"separationCountBand":84,"outcome":24,"twoPerspective":25,"publishedAt":104,"image":105},"we-separated-3-times-in-our-first-20-years-and-we-re-still-together-0daf03",{"en":96,"sw":97},"We separated 3 times in our first 20 years - and we're still together","Tulitengana mara 3 katika miaka yetu 20 ya kwanza - na bado tuko pamoja",{"en":99,"sw":100},"We have been married for 11 to 20 years. Ours is a customary marriage. We have three or more children. We live in Coast.","Tumeoana kwa miaka 11 hadi 20. Ndoa yetu ni ya aina ya ya kimila. Tuna watoto watatu au zaidi. Tunaishi Pwani.",[16,102,103,19,20,17],"infidelity","intimacy","2026-10-06T18:14:15.231Z",{"file":106,"alt":107,"kind":32,"photographer":54,"sourceUrl":110,"licence":35},"story-sofa-dog",{"en":108,"sw":109},"A couple relaxing on the sofa with their dog","Wanandoa wakipumzika kochini na mbwa wao","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.pexels.com\u002Fphoto\u002F6578770\u002F",{"slug":112,"title":113,"excerpt":116,"topicTags":119,"yearsMarriedBand":121,"separationCountBand":122,"outcome":123,"twoPerspective":25,"publishedAt":124,"image":125},"communication-or-constant-fighting-in-year-3-of-our-marriage-what-we-l-7519f7",{"en":114,"sw":115},"Communication or constant fighting in year 3 of our marriage: what we learned","Mawasiliano au ugomvi wa kila mara katika mwaka wa 3 wa ndoa yetu: tulichojifunza",{"en":117,"sw":118},"We have been married for more than 20 years. Ours is a come-we-stay, later formalised marriage. We have three or more children. We live in Rift Valley.","Tumeoana kwa zaidi ya miaka 20. Ndoa yetu ni ya aina ya kuja tukae, baadaye ikahalalishwa. Tuna watoto watatu au zaidi. Tunaishi Bonde la Ufa.",[20,19,45,120],"addiction","21+","4+","separated","2026-09-27T07:36:10.384Z",{"file":126,"alt":127,"kind":32,"photographer":130,"sourceUrl":131,"licence":35},"story-breakfast-window",{"en":128,"sw":129},"A couple at breakfast, one by the window with a coffee","Wanandoa wakati wa kifungua kinywa, mmoja dirishani na kahawa","Thirdman","https:\u002F\u002Fwww.pexels.com\u002Fphoto\u002F7236842\u002F",8,1,6,{"id":136,"title":137,"as_of":140,"version":141,"n":142,"suppressed":4,"data":143,"labels":148,"summary":149},"topic-share",{"en":138,"sw":139},"How many named this challenge","Wangapi walitaja changamoto hii","2026-11-13T03:41:25.145Z","3.1",529,{"kind":144,"unit":145,"denominator":142,"numerator":146,"value":147,"suppressed":4},"figure","pct",232,43.9,{},{"en":150,"sw":151},"44% of 529 people who described a hard season named communication or constant fighting as one of the main challenges.","44% ya watu 529 walioeleza kipindi kigumu walitaja mawasiliano au ugomvi wa kila mara kama mojawapo ya changamoto kuu.",{"id":153,"title":154,"as_of":140,"version":141,"n":146,"suppressed":4,"data":157,"labels":198,"summary":235},"most-helpful",{"en":155,"sw":156},"What helped most","Kilichosaidia zaidi",{"kind":158,"n":146,"multi":4,"cells":159},"distribution",[160,164,168,172,176,180,182,184,188,191,193,196],{"key":161,"count":162,"pct":163,"suppressed":4},"nothing_helped",56,24.1,{"key":165,"count":166,"pct":167,"suppressed":4},"faith_leader",40,17.2,{"key":169,"count":170,"pct":171,"suppressed":4},"my_family",39,16.8,{"key":173,"count":174,"pct":175,"suppressed":4},"friends",30,12.9,{"key":177,"count":178,"pct":179,"suppressed":4},"counsellor",16,6.9,{"key":181,"count":178,"pct":179,"suppressed":4},"mentor_couple",{"key":183,"count":178,"pct":179,"suppressed":4},"elders",{"key":185,"count":186,"pct":187,"suppressed":4},"spouse_family",11,4.7,{"key":189,"count":190,"pct":190,"suppressed":25},"online_groups",null,{"key":192,"count":190,"pct":190,"suppressed":25},"book_course",{"key":194,"count":195,"pct":195,"suppressed":4},"no_one",0,{"key":197,"count":195,"pct":195,"suppressed":4},"other",{"nothing_helped":199,"faith_leader":202,"my_family":205,"friends":208,"counsellor":211,"mentor_couple":214,"elders":217,"spouse_family":220,"online_groups":223,"book_course":226,"no_one":229,"other":232},{"en":200,"sw":201},"Nothing helped","Hakuna kilichosaidia",{"en":203,"sw":204},"Pastor, imam or faith leader","Mchungaji, imamu au kiongozi wa dini",{"en":206,"sw":207},"My family","Familia yangu",{"en":209,"sw":210},"Friends","Marafiki",{"en":212,"sw":213},"Professional counsellor","Mshauri nasaha wa kitaalamu",{"en":215,"sw":216},"Mentor or older couple","Mshauri au wanandoa wazee",{"en":218,"sw":219},"Elders","Wazee",{"en":221,"sw":222},"My spouse's family","Familia ya mwenzi wangu",{"en":224,"sw":225},"Online groups or social media","Vikundi vya mtandaoni au mitandao ya kijamii",{"en":227,"sw":228},"A book, course or seminar","Kitabu, kozi au semina",{"en":230,"sw":231},"No one","Hakuna mtu",{"en":233,"sw":234},"Other","Nyingine",{"en":236,"sw":237},"Asked what helped most, the most common answer was nothing helped (24% of 232).","Walipoulizwa kilichosaidia zaidi, jibu lililotolewa zaidi lilikuwa hakuna kilichosaidia (24% ya 232).",{"id":239,"title":240,"as_of":140,"version":141,"n":146,"suppressed":4,"data":243,"labels":272,"summary":295},"not-helpful",{"en":241,"sw":242},"What did not help","Kisichosaidia",{"kind":158,"n":146,"multi":25,"cells":244},[245,249,253,257,261,265,267,271],{"key":246,"count":247,"pct":248,"suppressed":4},"silent_treatment",118,50.9,{"key":250,"count":251,"pct":252,"suppressed":4},"taking_sides",89,38.4,{"key":254,"count":255,"pct":256,"suppressed":4},"too_many_people",81,34.9,{"key":258,"count":259,"pct":260,"suppressed":4},"threatening_divorce",80,34.5,{"key":262,"count":263,"pct":264,"suppressed":4},"social_media",33,14.2,{"key":266,"count":174,"pct":175,"suppressed":4},"leaving_home",{"key":268,"count":269,"pct":270,"suppressed":4},"revenge",28,12.1,{"key":197,"count":195,"pct":195,"suppressed":4},{"silent_treatment":273,"taking_sides":276,"too_many_people":279,"threatening_divorce":282,"social_media":285,"leaving_home":288,"revenge":291,"other":294},{"en":274,"sw":275},"Silent treatment","Kunyamaziana",{"en":277,"sw":278},"Friends or family taking sides","Marafiki au familia kuegemea upande mmoja",{"en":280,"sw":281},"Involving too many people","Kuhusisha watu wengi mno",{"en":283,"sw":284},"Threatening divorce","Kutishia talaka",{"en":286,"sw":287},"Social media","Mitandao ya kijamii",{"en":289,"sw":290},"Leaving home","Kuondoka nyumbani",{"en":292,"sw":293},"Revenge","Kulipiza kisasi",{"en":233,"sw":234},{"en":296,"sw":297},"The thing people most often said made it worse: silent treatment (51% of 232).","Kitu ambacho watu walisema mara nyingi kilifanya mambo kuwa mabaya zaidi: kunyamaziana (51% ya 232)."]